These 6 Buddhist monk habits take patience to adopt, but they’ll change your life forever.
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Did you know that the Buddha was born a prince? He could have spent his life in a big, beautiful palace where everything is done for him. But he didn’t. Finally, he abandoned everything when he realised the frustrating nature of materialism. 2300 years later, Buddhist monks do the same. They keep material possessions to a minimum and only hold what they need to live their life. Usually, this will all fit in a small backpack. They completely declutter their lives.
Buddhist Habit 1 – Taking care of others
In many Buddhist circles, monks learn to do things not for themselves, but for the whole world. When they meditate, it’s for the sake of everyone. They attempt to attain enlightenment to reach their full potential and help those in need. When you can develop this kind of selfless attitude, you focus less on your personal problems. You get less emotional about small things and your mind becomes calmer. This is what’s called inner decluttering: making room for others and dumping selfish habits.
Buddhist Habit 2 – Meditating A LOT
One of the main reasons you become a monk is to have more time to meditate. Most monks wake up early and meditate for 1 to 3 hours and do the same at night. This kind of practice changes the brain. If you’ve read any articles on the benefits of meditation, then you know what I mean. You don’t have to adopt this kind of rigorous schedule, but what if you started the day with 30 minutes of meditation?
Buddhist Habit 3– Following the wise
In western society, we have an unhealthy relationship with old age. But for Buddhist monks, they see elder people as having wisdom. They seek elder spiritual guides that can help them on their path. If you look around, there are always insightful people to learn from. Older people have more experience which means they can offer countless life lessons.
Buddhist Habit 4 Listen mindfully and with attention. Our brains judge others. But according to Buddha, the point of communication is to help others and ourselves to suffer less. Criticising and judging obviously doesn’t help. What’s wonderful about mindfulness is that it’s judgment-free. The main goal of mindful communication is to take in everything that someone is saying without evaluating it. So many of us pre-plan our answers while we’re listening but the main goal here is to simply take in all that they are saying. It leads to more mutual respect, understanding and chances for progress in the conversation.
Buddhist Habit 5 – Change is the only law of the universe
According to Buddhist master Suzuki, a crucial principle we all need to learn is to accept change: “Without accepting the fact that everything changes, we cannot find perfect composure. But unfortunately, although it is true, it is difficult for us to accept it. Because we cannot accept the truth of transiency, we suffer.”
Everything changes, it’s the fundamental law of the universe. Yet, we find it hard to accept it. We identify strongly with our fixed appearance, with our body and our personality. And when it changes, we suffer. However, Suzuki says we can overcome this by recognising that the contents of our minds are in perpetual flux. Everything about consciousness comes and goes. Realizing this in the heat of the moment can diffuse fear, anxiety, anger, grasping, despair. For example, it’s hard to stay angry when you see anger for what it is. This is why Zen teaches that the moment is all that exists. Suzuki says: “Whatever you do, it should be an expression of the same deep activity. We should appreciate what we are doing. There is no preparation for something else”
Buddhist Habit 6 – Living in the moment
As humans it can be tough to simply embrace the present moment. We tend to think about past events or worry about what the future holds. Our mind can naturally drift. But mindfulness encourages us to refocus. Practising mindfulness enables us to get better at redirecting our thoughts back to what we’re actually engaged in. Without judging ourselves for getting lost in our thoughts, we simply acknowledge that we lost our attention and direct our focus to our senses or any task we’re engaged in. It takes discipline but it’s what we need to do if we want be present for the miracles of life.